Sememangnya semua perhubungan ada pasang surut. Tetapi apabila kita bercakap tentang hubungan cinta jarak jauh, ia adalah perkara yang berbeza.
Walaupun terdapat banyak faedah dan sebab LDR untuk mengekalkan hubungan sedemikian, terlibat dalam hubungan yang jauh boleh menjadi sangat sukar, terutamanya pada mulanya .
Maka adalah perlu untuk mengenal pasti masalah utama perhubungan jarak jauh untuk membiasakannya dan memadam terlebih dahulu semua kemungkinan drama.
Jadi inilah masalah perhubungan jarak jauh terbesar yang akan anda hadapi !
Masalah #1: Adalah mustahil untuk berjumpa antara satu sama lain apabila anda mahu
Pertama sekali, kita mesti mengakui bahawa ciuman dan pelukan adalah perkara yang paling hilang dalam hubungan jarak jauh.
Skype secara dramatik memudahkan kehidupan mereka yang berkenaan dengan membenarkan semua pasangan di seluruh dunia berkomunikasi melalui video .
Malangnya, perisian sembang video tidak boleh menggantikan kehadiran fizikal dan bukan maya .
Adalah bagus untuk cuba meminimumkan ini dengan komunikasi yang diperkukuh. Walau bagaimanapun, ketiadaan sentiasa di sini .
Bagaimana untuk menguruskannya? Mulakan dengan menerima ini sebagai sebahagian daripada permainan.
Masalah #2: Anda tidak berkongsi kehidupan harian yang sama
Masing-masing ada cara tersendiri.
Apabila kita berada dalam hubungan jarak jauh, kita hanya berkongsi apa yang kita bersetuju dan ingin berkongsi .
Thus, we end up ignoring significant parts of the daily life of our lover: his/her work, random life events, meetings, random thoughts, schedule, etc.
To compensate, it is essential to invest more of your time throughout the day.
It can be a reunion, a date on Skype, a surprise or just being more attentive to the other in your communications.
In short, it’s about taking a proactive approach regarding your relationship.
Problem #3: A long distance relationship is expensive
What is the most expensive between a long distance relationship and a “classic†relationship?
One can ask the question, as it is true that managing a love without borders can be expensive.
We will not complain too much, especially since the prices of telephony, Internet and transportation are decreasing year by year, especially with the rise of low-cost and reliable alternatives.
If you are both working now, then your reunion will be a travel expense and will have little impact on your daily life.
But if this is not your case, and you do not earn a recurring income, then you risk that your budget harms your relationship.
In this case, think about how you can save more money on a daily basis to “afford†your long distance relationship.
Problem #4: You feel so lonely…
We would really like to be able to say to the other, “Can you come this afternoon? It would make me so happy to see you and spend time with you! “.
But it’s not that simple.
A long distance relationship is a mutual promise that we will remain by ourselves until our reunion.
Likewise, it is often impossible to have the comforting presence of the loved one when we really need him/her: when we are sad, when we need help, when we want to be there for the other, etc.
In such a way, even if you are in a love relationship, you feel terribly lonely.
Especially when you go out with friends in pairs, or you meet couples hand in hand on the street.
In this case, stay optimistic, because sooner or later, it will be YOUR turn.
Problem #5: You receive very little support
What is different is disturbing.
Although long distance relationships are increasingly popular around the world, they still have a pejorative connotation in the eyes of Mr. and Mrs. Everybody.
So how can we get the compassion and empathy of the people who matter to us, when they do not understand our situation?
This lack of support only reinforces the feeling of loneliness mentioned earlier.
However, to avoid being more depressed, it is possible to learn how to handle criticism and find support from other people in long distance relationships! Search for online communities, and you will find your new family.
Problem #6: Doubts and uncertainties are legion
Am I wasting my time?
Is he/she going to deceive me?
Is he/she going to get tired of waiting?
The least we can say is that loneliness is conducive to the imagination, and therefore to the emergence of negative thoughts.
No matter how much you trust each other, it is the very nature of the long distance relationship that causes it.
This is why it is crucial to communicate in a transparent, sincere and frequent manner. Do not give your couple time to enter the vicious circle of paranoia, jealousy, and pessimism.
Problem #7: You have to relearn everything
As you will understand, long distance dating is very different from traditional relationships.
In this case, the only way forward is to relearn everything. And here there is no room for playing.
This is a serious commitment, and it must be felt in your daily interactions: do not lie, make efforts, look for compromise and fight for your relationship.
If you manage a long distance relationship just like a classic relationship, you’ll be in a real trouble. So stay open-minded.
Problem #8: Offsets are amplified
Whether it’s time differences, cultural differences, language differences, or communication styles, the barriers to mutual understanding are always there.
However, a misinterpretation or frustration can quickly lead to a more or less important argument.
Who has never muddled from a misunderstood text message?
Tunjukkan lebih daripada sebelumnya kesabaran dan toleransi dalam pasangan anda. Jika hubungan anda berharga bagi anda, maka lakukan segala usaha untuk mengurangkan jarak psikologi antara anda berdua.
Kesimpulan
Mengekalkan hubungan jarak jauh memerlukan lebih daripada semua keberanian, kerana kelemahan, kesukaran, dan masalah hubungan jarak jauh yang sebenar ada .
Perkara yang baik adalah bahawa tidak semuanya buruk tentang hubungan jarak jauh. Anda boleh membaca lebih lanjut mengenai pelbagai manfaat LDR dengan mengklik di sini jika anda mahukan pandangan yang lebih positif mengenai perkara ini!
– Akan
